Mental Health Mission

First of all, our foundation wants to understand you before we take any aggressive steps to combat against your abusive behavior.

 

In fact, a lot of money is spent every year to study and understand why you are harassing and bullying another human. The conclusions so far are; 

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(Read these findings & let's identify if you relate to any of them)

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Once you have read these and identified which reason/s you relate to why you are harassing & bullying someone, reach out to us and we will help you quietly & peacefully take the steps that you need to help change sides and become a vigilant defender of others. We are here for you and we have the resources to help you change sides.

 

Perhaps you decide not to change after we have identified you and offered you all the tools to change sides. Well then you can bet that we will be taking a different path to protect anyone that you are targeting. 

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Stress & Trauma

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Our data shows that those who bully are far more likely than average to have experienced a stressful or traumatic situation in the past 5 years. Examples include their parents/guardians splitting up, the death of a relative or the gaining of a little brother or sister.

It makes sense because we all respond to stress in very different ways. Some of us use positive behaviours, such as meditation, exercise and talking therapy - all designed to relieve the stress.

Others use negative behaviours such as bullying, violence and alcohol abuse, which temporarily mask the issues but usually make them worse in the long-term.

The research shows that some people simply do not know how to positively respond to stress and so default to bullying others as a coping mechanism.

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Aggression stemming from anger 

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66% of the people who had admitted to bullying somebody else were male. Take a minute to think about how guys are raised in our culture and compare that to the ways in which girls are raised. The moment a guy starts to show any sign of emotion, he's told to man up and to stop being a girl.

For girls, it's encouraged that they speak up about issues that affect them.

For guys, it's discouraged and so they start to respond with aggressive behaviours, such as bullying, as a way of coping with issues that affect them. This is why guys are more likely than girls to physically attack somebody or to commit crimes. It isn't something they are born with, it's a learned behaviour that is actively taught by society using dysfunctional gender norms and roles.

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Girls are more likely to cyber bully & to use emotional & mental abuse to harm their targets. Social media bullying is dominated by females. This is not to say that males don't also particpate in cyber bullying. 

 

Low self-esteem:

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In order to mask how they actually feel about themselves, some people who bully focus attention on someone else. They try to avoid any negative attention directed at them by deflecting. But know they might look in the mirror at home and hate the way they look.

There is so much pressure to live up to beauty and fitness standards that we are taught to compare ourselves to others, instead of embracing our own beauty.

 

You yourself have been bullied:

 

Our research shows that those who have experienced bullying are twice as likely to go on and bully others. Maybe they were bullied as kids in the past, or maybe they are being bullied now.

Often it's used as a defence mechanism and people tend to believe that by bullying others, they will become immune to being bullied themselves. In fact, it just becomes a vicious cycle of negative behaviours.

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Difficult home life:

 

1 in 3 of those who bully people daily told us that they feel like their parents/guardians don't have enough time to spend with them. They are more likely to come from larger families and are more likely to live with people other than their biological parents.

There are often feelings of rejection from the very people who should love them unconditionally. They are also much more likely to come from violent households with lots of arguments and hostility.

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Low access to education:

 

Without access to education, hate-based conversation directed at others may be the norm. They may not understand what hate speech is and why speaking about people in a derogatory way is not appropriate.

 

Relationships:

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Finally, those who bully are more likely to feel like their friendships and family relationships aren't very secure. In order to keep friendships, they might be pressured by their peers to behave in a certain way.

They are more likely to feel like those who are closest to them make them do things that they don't feel comfortable doing and aren't very supportive or loving.

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Do you relate to one or more of these and are ready to heal & change? We commend you and are judgement free here for you with the resources you need. We will help you turn all that negative energy in to positive & constructive energy. 

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Start by emailing;

vigilante@charlierabbit.org

subject line: I'm ready

 

text "I'm ready" to our team at 310-912-5678.

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call 310-912-5678 and say, I'm ready.